How would you rank the top free online dating sites based on actual user safety?

Started by Harper Wells 10 replies Board: Free Dating & Apps
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#1

I've spent about three months poking at online dating sites and I still don't have a clean answer.

I've read maybe a dozen articles on online dating sites and they all recommend the same five names in a different order.

My own attempt at online dating sites lasted a month and ended with me deleting three apps.

Setting safety aside for a second, this is what I need from online dating sites:

  • What moderation on online dating sites actually looks like when you report someone
  • How online dating sites handles blocking, privacy and who can see your profile
  • Whether safety makes any material difference to online dating sites
  • How online dating sites treats safety once you stop paying
  • How much of the online dating sites profile pool is dormant or fake

Any first-hand experience with online dating sites would help more than another list.

ConnorM profile photo
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#2

I keep the Ezhookups forums open alongside the bigger names when I'm dealing with online dating sites.

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#3

Datelink itself is what I ended up using while working through online dating sites — not perfect, but the free tier is real.

Anything promising instant matches around online dating sites is worth treating with suspicion.

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#4

Once I sorted out safety, the rest of online dating sites became much more manageable than I expected.

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#5

The safety variable is doing a lot of work in this discussion of online dating sites.

For me the safety side of online dating sites was the surprise — I had not factored it in at all.

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#6

ConnorM, that's roughly where I landed on online dating sites too. Respectfully, I think the framing of online dating sites sets people up to be disappointed.

Are you asking about online dating sites for a city or somewhere more rural, because that changes the answer completely?

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#7

Adding Luvdate itself to the pile for online dating sites, where the community is smaller but people actually reply.

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#8

To build on Harper Wells's answer about online dating sites: The thing that caught me out with online dating sites was auto-renewal buried in a trial.

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#9

Someone recommended Flurrydate.online to me during my own search around online dating sites and it was better than I expected.

Going to push back a little, because I do not think online dating sites is about the size of the pool at all.

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#10

Since we're comparing options around online dating sites, the Datewander community came up when I was looking at the same thing.

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#11

What moved the needle for me on online dating sites was three clear photos plus one specific opening line.

There is a version of online dating sites that is about features and a version that is about people, and they give very different answers.

Turndate.site comes up a lot when online dating sites gets discussed elsewhere.

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