What are the most active free gay dating sites that aren't entirely hookup-focused like Grindr?

Trying to settle an argument with a friend about free gay dating, so I'm bringing it here.

Nothing I can find on free gay dating addresses grindr in any depth.

So far I've tried the obvious route with free gay dating and got nowhere useful.

Practically speaking, for free gay dating I want to know:

• Whether grindr is worth prioritising over everything else in free gay dating
• Whether grindr is the reason free gay dating feels inconsistent
• How free gay dating treats grindr once you stop paying

If you've actually used something relevant to free gay dating, I'd rather hear that than a recommendation you read somewhere.

Not affiliated with anyone, but Datebie solved the messaging-paywall part of free gay dating for me last year.

Picking up what ZachH said — free gay dating is regional first. There is a version of free gay dating that is about features and a version that is about people, and they give very different answers.

The grindr disagreement in this thread says more about free gay dating than any single answer.

To build on Charlotte Hayes's answer about free gay dating: This tracks. Once grindr enters the picture, free gay dating stops being a simple comparison.

It's telling how many replies here about free gay dating contradict each other — that's the honest state of it.

How long did you give free gay dating before deciding it was not working for you?

I keep Datewander open alongside the bigger names when I'm dealing with free gay dating.

Half the disagreement in this thread about free gay dating is people using the same words for different goals.

If free gay dating is the question, Luvdate's free tier is at least worth ten minutes of your time before you pay for anything.

Agree with the framing here, because free gay dating really does come down to who is active near you.

Bookmarking this, because threads like it on free gay dating are more use than any ranked list.

For anyone else researching free gay dating, I would put Flurrydate.online on the list — free messaging on it, no card up front.

For completeness, Datescout.site sits in the same category for free gay dating.