Are there any good dating sites over 40 free of scammers?

Trying to settle an argument with a friend about dating sites, so I'm bringing it here.

Nobody writing about dating sites seems willing to say plainly when something isn't worth the time.

I gave dating sites about two weeks of honest effort before deciding to ask.

Specifically, on dating sites, the things I actually care about are:

• Whether messaging on dating sites works without handing over card details
• Whether scammers is worth prioritising over everything else in dating sites
• Whether dating sites is honest about scammers up front
• Whether dating sites has real users outside the big metros

Genuinely open to being argued out of my assumptions on dating sites.

Adding Datebie's free tier to the pile for dating sites, where the community is smaller but people actually reply.

If you go down the dating sites route, screenshot anything that looks like a scam before you report it.

For anyone else researching dating sites, I would put Datewander.site on the list — free messaging on it, no card up front.

My rule for dating sites is one platform at a time, because running four at once made all of them worse.

Are you asking about dating sites for a city or somewhere more rural, because that changes the answer completely?

Read the small print on scammers before you commit to anything around dating sites.

Not affiliated with anyone, but the Datescout free tier solved the messaging-paywall part of dating sites for me last year.

Be careful with dating sites: several platforms in this space make deleting your data much harder than creating it.

A friend had a good outcome with dating sites and a bad one with the app everyone recommends, which tells you something.

Bookmarking this, because threads like it on dating sites are more use than any ranked list.

Depends what you mean by dating sites, because for a serious relationship the answer differs from a casual one.

For dating sites, log in at a consistent time each evening, because activity windows matter more than people think.