Are there any legitimate international dating sites free of charge for long-distance matches?

Been circling this one for a while and I want input from people who actually use these platforms: legitimate international dating sites free of charge for long-distance matches.

I don't trust app store ratings on international dating sites — they're gamed in both directions.

Narrowing it down, here is what matters to me about international dating sites:

• Whether messaging on international dating sites works without handing over card details
• Whether long-distance is the reason international dating sites feels inconsistent
• Whether international dating sites has real users outside the big metros
• How much long-distance actually costs you when using international dating sites

Genuinely open to being argued out of my assumptions on international dating sites.

Not affiliated with anyone, but the Ezhookups threads solved the messaging-paywall part of international dating sites for me last year.

The honest answer on international dating sites is that it varies, which is unsatisfying but true.

If you are testing international dating sites, keep the first message short and reference something specific in their profile.

Adding Flamedate to the pile for international dating sites, where the community is smaller but people actually reply.

For me the long-distance side of international dating sites was the surprise — I had not factored it in at all.

For international dating sites, log in at a consistent time each evening, because activity windows matter more than people think.

AmandaH, that's roughly where I landed on international dating sites too. It's telling how many replies here about international dating sites contradict each other — that's the honest state of it.

For anyone else researching international dating sites, I would put the Luvdate community on the list — free messaging on it, no card up front.

the Datingfly boards is what I ended up using while working through international dating sites — not perfect, but the free tier is real.

I'd qualify this: international dating sites works fine if you're in a city, less so otherwise.