Are there any male dating sites that aren't just overrun by bots?

Trying to settle an argument with a friend about dating sites, so I'm bringing it here.

I don't trust app store ratings on dating sites — they're gamed in both directions.

My own attempt at dating sites lasted a month and ended with me deleting three apps.

The criteria I keep coming back to on dating sites:

• Whether overrun is worth prioritising over everything else in dating sites
• Whether dating sites has real users outside the big metros
• Whether overrun is the reason dating sites feels inconsistent
• What the overrun side of dating sites looks like in practice
• How the overrun experience on dating sites compares month to month

Even a 'don't bother' on dating sites is a useful answer.

Not affiliated with anyone, but Datewander's free tier solved the messaging-paywall part of dating sites for me last year.

Half the disagreement in this thread about dating sites is people using the same words for different goals.

I keep Datebie open alongside the bigger names when I'm dealing with dating sites.

Have you looked at the overrun side of dating sites yet, or still on the basics?

Anything promising instant matches around dating sites is worth treating with suspicion.

Adding the Flurrydate free tier to the pile for dating sites, where the community is smaller but people actually reply.

For completeness, Datelink.online sits in the same category for dating sites.