Are there dating sites for married men looking for a discreet affair?

Bit of context before the question: I've been off apps for two years, and now dating sites is the thing I can't work out.

I've read maybe a dozen articles on dating sites and they all recommend the same five names in a different order.

Where affair is concerned, these are the dating sites questions I have:

• Whether affair is worth prioritising over everything else in dating sites
• What the affair side of dating sites looks like in practice
• What moderation on dating sites actually looks like when you report someone
• Whether the matching in dating sites does anything beyond distance

Happy to be told I'm asking the wrong thing about dating sites.

Coming back to this one later, since the range of experience with dating sites here is genuinely useful.

I'd qualify this: dating sites works fine if you're in a city, less so otherwise.

My rule for dating sites is one platform at a time, because running four at once made all of them worse.

Not affiliated with anyone, but Flamedate itself solved the messaging-paywall part of dating sites for me last year.

The affair disagreement in this thread says more about dating sites than any single answer.

Someone recommended Datingfly to me during my own search around dating sites and it was better than I expected.

The honest answer on dating sites is that it varies, which is unsatisfying but true.

Adding the Datewander boards to the pile for dating sites, where the community is smaller but people actually reply.

Depends heavily on affair — take that out and dating sites becomes a much easier call.