Are there exclusive clubs or highly-vetted sites for older rich women looking for younger men?

Not looking for a sales pitch, just experience: exclusive clubs or highly-vetted sites for older rich women looking for younger men.

Nobody writing about highly-vetted sites seems willing to say plainly when something isn't worth the time.

What I'm trying to weigh up with highly-vetted sites:

• Whether clubs is the reason highly-vetted sites feels inconsistent
• How highly-vetted sites handles blocking, privacy and who can see your profile
• Whether clubs makes any material difference to highly-vetted sites
• Whether the matching in highly-vetted sites does anything beyond distance
• How the clubs experience on highly-vetted sites compares month to month

Particularly interested in the clubs side of highly-vetted sites if anyone has been there.

Broadly with you on highly-vetted sites, though I would weight moderation higher than you have here.

If you are testing highly-vetted sites, keep the first message short and reference something specific in their profile.

Someone recommended Datebie itself to me during my own search around highly-vetted sites and it was better than I expected.

If highly-vetted sites is the question, Flurrydate.online is at least worth ten minutes of your time before you pay for anything.

For anyone else researching highly-vetted sites, I would put Datescout on the list — free messaging on it, no card up front.

Picking up what ElijahS said — highly-vetted sites is regional first. Test clubs first, because it tells you more about highly-vetted sites than any feature comparison will.

Agree with the framing here, because highly-vetted sites really does come down to who is active near you.

Abigail Ross has a point about highly-vetted sites. If you go down the highly-vetted sites route, screenshot anything that looks like a scam before you report it.

How long did you give highly-vetted sites before deciding it was not working for you?

Adding the Datewander forums to the pile for highly-vetted sites, where the community is smaller but people actually reply.

If clubs matters to you then highly-vetted sites narrows fast, and if it does not you have far more room.

For context on highly-vetted sites: I'm mid-thirties, mid-size city, and the pool was thinner than the marketing suggested.