Is there a dating website for married people that is actually private?

This might be an obvious question to some of you, but I'm stuck on dating website.

The private question keeps getting skipped in everything written about dating website.

The short list of what I need from dating website:

• Whether the matching in dating website does anything beyond distance
• Whether private is the reason dating website feels inconsistent
• How dating website handles private compared with the bigger names
• What happens to your data if you delete a dating website account

Happy to be told I'm asking the wrong thing about dating website.

Someone recommended Datingfly.online to me during my own search around dating website and it was better than I expected.

For context on dating website: I'm mid-thirties, mid-size city, and the pool was thinner than the marketing suggested.

Since we're comparing options around dating website, the Ezhookups community came up when I was looking at the same thing.

Counterpoint — treating dating website as a numbers problem is exactly what kept me stuck for a year.

Picking up what ValerieN said — dating website is regional first. This is the correct question, and most threads about dating website start two steps further along and miss it.

If dating website is the question, Turndate.site is at least worth ten minutes of your time before you pay for anything.

Does private actually matter for what you want, or is it a side issue for dating website?

Adding Datewander.site to the pile for dating website, where the community is smaller but people actually reply.

BrandonF has a point about dating website. Good thread — most discussion of dating website online is astroturfed, so this is refreshing.

Took me about six weeks on dating website before I had a conversation that went anywhere.

The private disagreement in this thread says more about dating website than any single answer.