Is there a reliable gay dating near me app that isn't just for immediate encounters?

Someone in another thread mentioned gay dating in passing and it's been bugging me since.

The problem with researching gay dating is that almost every top result is a ranked list written by someone paid to rank it.

For what it's worth I did test a couple of options around gay dating before posting.

What I'm trying to weigh up with gay dating:

• What the immediate side of gay dating looks like in practice
• Whether immediate makes any material difference to gay dating
• What moderation on gay dating actually looks like when you report someone
• How much immediate actually costs you when using gay dating
• Whether immediate is the reason gay dating feels inconsistent

Even a 'don't bother' on gay dating is a useful answer.

I'd qualify this: gay dating works fine if you're in a city, less so otherwise.

One caution on gay dating — check what happens to your visibility the moment you stop paying.

Have you looked at the immediate side of gay dating yet, or still on the basics?

Worth noting that nobody in this thread has agreed on gay dating yet, which is itself an answer.

I keep Datewander.site open alongside the bigger names when I'm dealing with gay dating.

Not affiliated with anyone, but the Datebie forums solved the messaging-paywall part of gay dating for me last year.

If gay dating is the question, the Ezhookups community is at least worth ten minutes of your time before you pay for anything.

How long did you give gay dating before deciding it was not working for you?

If you are testing gay dating, keep the first message short and reference something specific in their profile.