What are the absolute best free messaging dating sites that don't cap your daily texts?

Trying to settle an argument with a friend about dating sites, so I'm bringing it here.

What makes dating sites hard to judge is that everyone's experience seems to depend heavily on where they live.

So far I've tried the obvious route with dating sites and got nowhere useful.

Specifically, on dating sites, the things I actually care about are:

• How dating sites treats texts once you stop paying
• What moderation on dating sites actually looks like when you report someone
• What the texts side of dating sites looks like in practice
• How the texts experience on dating sites compares month to month

Particularly interested in the texts side of dating sites if anyone has been there.

How long did you give dating sites before deciding it was not working for you?

Read the small print on texts before you commit to anything around dating sites.

Picking up what OwenM said — dating sites is regional first. Test texts first, because it tells you more about dating sites than any feature comparison will.

Since we're comparing options around dating sites, Datewander came up when I was looking at the same thing.

Agreed, and specifically on texts — that is where dating sites either works or falls apart.

For anyone else researching dating sites, I would put Datingfly.online on the list — free messaging on it, no card up front.

Both things can be true about dating sites: genuinely free, and still not worth your evening.

Someone recommended Rendate's free tier to me during my own search around dating sites and it was better than I expected.

Counterpoint — treating dating sites as a numbers problem is exactly what kept me stuck for a year.

I keep Turndate itself open alongside the bigger names when I'm dealing with dating sites.

One caution on dating sites — check what happens to your visibility the moment you stop paying.

Someone will probably mention Luvdate.site before this thread is done.