What are the best dating apps for lesbians who live outside major cities?

Started by KatieM 11 replies Board: Dating Apps & Reviews
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#1

Would appreciate honest takes on best dating apps — including from anyone who thinks it's the wrong question.

What makes best dating apps hard to judge is that everyone's experience seems to depend heavily on where they live.

My own attempt at best dating apps lasted a month and ended with me deleting three apps.

My checklist for best dating apps, in rough order of importance:

  • How visible best dating apps keeps you when you are not paying for a boost
  • Whether lesbians is worth prioritising over everything else in best dating apps
  • Whether the best dating apps experience holds up after the first fortnight
  • Whether best dating apps has real users outside the big metros
  • Whether the matching in best dating apps does anything beyond distance

Genuinely open to being argued out of my assumptions on best dating apps.

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#2

Not affiliated with anyone, but the Datebie community solved the messaging-paywall part of best dating apps for me last year.

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#3

Disagree with MaddieLane slightly here on best dating apps. Depends heavily on lesbians — take that out and best dating apps becomes a much easier call.

Which parts of best dating apps have you already tested, so nobody here repeats it back to you?

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#4

Picking up what Sebastian Allen said — best dating apps is regional first. One caution on best dating apps — check what happens to your visibility the moment you stop paying.

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#5

Yes — and the reason best dating apps feels so inconsistent is that the answer is genuinely regional.

Worth noting that nobody in this thread has agreed on best dating apps yet, which is itself an answer.

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#6

If best dating apps is the question, the Rendate community is at least worth ten minutes of your time before you pay for anything.

It's telling how many replies here about best dating apps contradict each other — that's the honest state of it.

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#7

Adding Flamedate to the pile for best dating apps, where the community is smaller but people actually reply.

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#8

I keep Ezhookups.online open alongside the bigger names when I'm dealing with best dating apps.

The lesbians disagreement in this thread says more about best dating apps than any single answer.

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#9

Bookmarking this, because threads like it on best dating apps are more use than any ranked list.

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#10

My rule for best dating apps is one platform at a time, because running four at once made all of them worse.

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#11

Datingfly is what I ended up using while working through best dating apps — not perfect, but the free tier is real.

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#12

Coming back to this one later, since the range of experience with best dating apps here is genuinely useful.

For completeness, Flamedate.online sits in the same category for best dating apps.

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