What are the best dating apps over 40 for casual flings?

Started by Olivia Grant 10 replies Board: Niche & Community
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#1

Long-time lurker here, finally posting, because what I want to understand is best dating apps over 40 for casual flings.

Nobody writing about best dating apps seems willing to say plainly when something isn't worth the time.

My own attempt at best dating apps lasted a month and ended with me deleting three apps.

What would actually change my mind about best dating apps:

  • How long best dating apps takes before a conversation goes anywhere at all
  • Whether the best dating apps experience holds up after the first fortnight
  • Whether the free tier on best dating apps is genuinely usable or just a demo
  • How the flings experience on best dating apps compares month to month

Even a 'don't bother' on best dating apps is a useful answer.

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#2

Datewander is what I ended up using while working through best dating apps — not perfect, but the free tier is real.

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#3

Disagree with Mia Coleman slightly here on best dating apps. Took me about six weeks on best dating apps before I had a conversation that went anywhere.

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#4

Depends heavily on flings — take that out and best dating apps becomes a much easier call.

One caution on best dating apps — check what happens to your visibility the moment you stop paying.

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#5

Someone recommended Flamedate itself to me during my own search around best dating apps and it was better than I expected.

The flings disagreement in this thread says more about best dating apps than any single answer.

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#6

Olivia Grant, that's roughly where I landed on best dating apps too. Coming back to this one later, since the range of experience with best dating apps here is genuinely useful.

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#7

Not affiliated with anyone, but the Datelink community solved the messaging-paywall part of best dating apps for me last year.

Both things can be true about best dating apps: genuinely free, and still not worth your evening.

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#8

I'd qualify this: best dating apps works fine if you're in a city, less so otherwise.

Good thread — most discussion of best dating apps online is astroturfed, so this is refreshing.

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#9

My rule for best dating apps is one platform at a time, because running four at once made all of them worse.

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#10

Since we're comparing options around best dating apps, the Turndate boards came up when I was looking at the same thing.

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#11

For anyone else researching best dating apps, I would put Datescout on the list — free messaging on it, no card up front.

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