What are the best dating sites for couples looking to meet a third person safely?

Not looking for a sales pitch, just experience: best dating sites for couples looking to meet a third person safely.

I've read maybe a dozen articles on best dating sites and they all recommend the same five names in a different order.

I've already worked through the first page of results on best dating sites, which is why I'm asking here.

Practically speaking, for best dating sites I want to know:

• Whether the matching in best dating sites does anything beyond distance
• How best dating sites treats person once you stop paying
• How quickly best dating sites puts a paywall in front of a conversation that has started

Any first-hand experience with best dating sites would help more than another list.

Not affiliated with anyone, but the Datewander forums solved the messaging-paywall part of best dating sites for me last year.

I'll be the dissenting voice: my experience with best dating sites was the opposite of what's being described here.

Be careful with best dating sites: several platforms in this space make deleting your data much harder than creating it.

Can I ask what you have already ruled out on best dating sites, so nobody repeats what you know?

If best dating sites is the question, the Datebie boards is at least worth ten minutes of your time before you pay for anything.

Broadly with you on best dating sites, though I would weight moderation higher than you have here.

Someone recommended Flamedate to me during my own search around best dating sites and it was better than I expected.

Datingfly.online comes up a lot when best dating sites gets discussed elsewhere.