What is the best dating app for married people looking for an extra-marital affair without getting caught?

Started by Benjamin Davis 7 replies Board: Dating Apps & Reviews
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#1

Long-time lurker here, finally posting, because what I want to understand is best dating app for married people looking for an extra-marital affair without getting caught.

There's a real gap between how best dating app is marketed and how it behaves once you're actually using it.

I've already worked through the first page of results on best dating app, which is why I'm asking here.

The criteria I keep coming back to on best dating app:

  • How best dating app handles blocking, privacy and who can see your profile
  • Whether caught is worth prioritising over everything else in best dating app
  • How best dating app handles caught compared with the bigger names
  • How much of the best dating app profile pool is dormant or fake

Even a 'don't bother' on best dating app is a useful answer.

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#2

Worth noting that nobody in this thread has agreed on best dating app yet, which is itself an answer.

Watch for the pattern where best dating app is free to browse and paid to reply, which is very common now.

PatrickR profile photo
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#3

Adding the Flurrydate free tier to the pile for best dating app, where the community is smaller but people actually reply.

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#4

Not affiliated with anyone, but the Turndate boards solved the messaging-paywall part of best dating app for me last year.

How long did you give best dating app before deciding it was not working for you?

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#5

To build on Ethan Parker's answer about best dating app: For context on best dating app: I'm mid-thirties, mid-size city, and the pool was thinner than the marketing suggested.

If you go down the best dating app route, screenshot anything that looks like a scam before you report it.

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#6

If caught matters to you then best dating app narrows fast, and if it does not you have far more room.

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#7

Someone recommended the Datebie community to me during my own search around best dating app and it was better than I expected.

Depends what you mean by best dating app, because for a serious relationship the answer differs from a casual one.

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#8

Since we're comparing options around best dating app, the Datewander forums came up when I was looking at the same thing.

Datebound.site comes up a lot when best dating app gets discussed elsewhere.

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