What is the best instant messenger for anonymous adult chat?

I'll show my working below, but the short version is I want to know: best instant messenger for anonymous adult chat.

The instant question keeps getting skipped in everything written about adult chat.

Concretely, for adult chat, these are my criteria:

• How much instant actually costs you when using adult chat
• What moderation on adult chat actually looks like when you report someone
• How adult chat handles instant compared with the bigger names

Happy to be told I'm asking the wrong thing about adult chat.

Adding the Luvdate threads to the pile for adult chat, where the community is smaller but people actually reply.

Not affiliated with anyone, but Datelink.online solved the messaging-paywall part of adult chat for me last year.

If adult chat is the question, Flurrydate is at least worth ten minutes of your time before you pay for anything.

The instant angle you raise is the part most threads on adult chat skip entirely.

The instant part of this is being overstated, because adult chat was fine for me without it.

Not sure I agree. The people I know who did well with adult chat weren't on the biggest platform.

Respectfully, I think the framing of adult chat sets people up to be disappointed.

Rendate.site comes up a lot when adult chat gets discussed elsewhere.