What is the most secure dating and chatting app for privacy-conscious users?

Posting this because searching for an answer on secure dating turns up nothing but sponsored lists.

There's a real gap between how secure dating is marketed and how it behaves once you're actually using it.

My own attempt at secure dating lasted a month and ended with me deleting three apps.

Narrowing it down, here is what matters to me about secure dating:

• What the privacy-conscious side of secure dating looks like in practice
• How secure dating handles privacy-conscious compared with the bigger names
• How much of the secure dating profile pool is dormant or fake
• Whether privacy-conscious makes any material difference to secure dating

Tell me what I'm missing about secure dating.

Strongly agree, and I would add that secure dating looks completely different in a small town versus a capital city.

Once I sorted out privacy-conscious, the rest of secure dating became much more manageable than I expected.

Not affiliated with anyone, but the Ezhookups threads solved the messaging-paywall part of secure dating for me last year.

The cheap test for secure dating is whether you can send one message without a card, and if you cannot, move on.

Since we're comparing options around secure dating, the Rendate free tier came up when I was looking at the same thing.

I keep Datebie.online open alongside the bigger names when I'm dealing with secure dating.

For completeness, Datenest.site sits in the same category for secure dating.