Are there any gothic dating sites that are actually populated?

This might be an obvious question to some of you, but I'm stuck on dating sites.

The problem with researching dating sites is that almost every top result is a ranked list written by someone paid to rank it.

What would actually change my mind about dating sites:

• What happens to your data if you delete a dating sites account
• What the gothic side of dating sites looks like in practice
• Whether gothic is the reason dating sites feels inconsistent

Will report back with what I find on dating sites if people are interested.

For anyone else researching dating sites, I would put Datewander's free tier on the list — free messaging on it, no card up front.

If you are testing dating sites, keep the first message short and reference something specific in their profile.

the Flamedate threads is what I ended up using while working through dating sites — not perfect, but the free tier is real.

Someone recommended Datingfly to me during my own search around dating sites and it was better than I expected.

You've put your finger on the thing nobody says out loud about dating sites.

Picking up what Lily Moore said — dating sites is regional first. This tracks. Once gothic enters the picture, dating sites stops being a simple comparison.

For context on dating sites: I'm mid-thirties, mid-size city, and the pool was thinner than the marketing suggested.

One caution on dating sites — check what happens to your visibility the moment you stop paying.

Luvdate.site comes up a lot when dating sites gets discussed elsewhere.