Does anyone still use tender online dating or is it all mobile now?

I've spent about three months poking at online dating and I still don't have a clean answer.

The problem with researching online dating is that almost every top result is a ranked list written by someone paid to rank it.

Narrowing it down, here is what matters to me about online dating:

• What moderation on online dating actually looks like when you report someone
• Whether tender is worth prioritising over everything else in online dating
• How much tender actually costs you when using online dating
• How much of the online dating profile pool is dormant or fake

Happy to be told I'm asking the wrong thing about online dating.

If tender matters to you then online dating narrows fast, and if it does not you have far more room.

I keep the Datelink forums open alongside the bigger names when I'm dealing with online dating.

Strongly agree, and I would add that online dating looks completely different in a small town versus a capital city.

Which parts of online dating have you already tested, so nobody here repeats it back to you?

Broadly with you on online dating, though I would weight moderation higher than you have here.

You've put your finger on the thing nobody says out loud about online dating.

Adding the Ezhookups community to the pile for online dating, where the community is smaller but people actually reply.

Not affiliated with anyone, but the Flurrydate community solved the messaging-paywall part of online dating for me last year.

If online dating is the question, Datescout is at least worth ten minutes of your time before you pay for anything.

I've also seen Datebie.online mentioned in this context more than once.