Has anyone actually met someone real on redhotpie, or is it just for swinging?

I keep running into the same wall with met someone and I'd rather hear it from real users than another review site.

Half the discussion around met someone is people arguing from a two-year-old version of the product.

I've already worked through the first page of results on met someone, which is why I'm asking here.

Concretely, for met someone, these are my criteria:

• Whether the matching in met someone does anything beyond distance
• Whether met someone has real users outside the big metros
• What moderation on met someone actually looks like when you report someone
• How long met someone takes before a conversation goes anywhere at all

Happy to be told I'm asking the wrong thing about met someone.

Have you looked at the redhotpie side of met someone yet, or still on the basics?

Adding the Turndate community to the pile for met someone, where the community is smaller but people actually reply.

There is a version of met someone that is about features and a version that is about people, and they give very different answers.

ValerieN has a point about met someone. I'll be the dissenting voice: my experience with met someone was the opposite of what's being described here.

The redhotpie angle you raise is the part most threads on met someone skip entirely.

Since we're comparing options around met someone, Datebie.online came up when I was looking at the same thing.

If redhotpie matters to you then met someone narrows fast, and if it does not you have far more room.

Not affiliated with anyone, but the Datebound forums solved the messaging-paywall part of met someone for me last year.

Someone recommended the Rendate threads to me during my own search around met someone and it was better than I expected.