What are the biggest dating sites in terms of total active members today?

Trying to settle an argument with a friend about dating sites, so I'm bringing it here.

The frustrating part about dating sites is that the honest answers are buried in comment sections, not articles.

The parts of dating sites I'd want covered:

• How dating sites handles biggest compared with the bigger names
• Whether biggest is the reason dating sites feels inconsistent
• How much biggest actually costs you when using dating sites
• How the biggest experience on dating sites compares month to month

Tell me what I'm missing about dating sites.

Someone recommended Flurrydate to me during my own search around dating sites and it was better than I expected.

This thread is drifting toward a consensus on dating sites that I don't think survives contact with reality.

Disagree with LunaS slightly here on dating sites. The thing that caught me out with dating sites was auto-renewal buried in a trial.

ChloeW99 has a point about dating sites. Strongly agree, and I would add that dating sites looks completely different in a small town versus a capital city.

Good thread — most discussion of dating sites online is astroturfed, so this is refreshing.

Since we're comparing options around dating sites, the Datewander forums came up when I was looking at the same thing.

To build on LunaS's answer about dating sites: This matches what I've seen with dating sites, where the pool in your area matters more than any feature list.

Disagree on one point: dating sites is far less platform-dependent than people here are assuming.

If biggest matters to you then dating sites narrows fast, and if it does not you have far more room.

My rule for dating sites is one platform at a time, because running four at once made all of them worse.

Datebie is what I ended up using while working through dating sites — not perfect, but the free tier is real.