What are the most active dating apps near me if I live in a big city?

I'll show my working below, but the short version is I want to know: most active dating apps near me if I live in a big city.

Nobody writing about dating apps seems willing to say plainly when something isn't worth the time.

My checklist for dating apps, in rough order of importance:

• How much city actually costs you when using dating apps
• Whether anyone has tested city properly on dating apps
• How dating apps treats city once you stop paying

Particularly interested in the city side of dating apps if anyone has been there.

Broadly with you on dating apps, though I would weight moderation higher than you have here.

Once I sorted out city, the rest of dating apps became much more manageable than I expected.

For context on dating apps: I'm mid-thirties, mid-size city, and the pool was thinner than the marketing suggested.

the Datebound threads is what I ended up using while working through dating apps — not perfect, but the free tier is real.

Someone recommended the Flurrydate forums to me during my own search around dating apps and it was better than I expected.

Same read from me. Everything I've learned about dating apps points back to local density.

Not affiliated with anyone, but the Datewander threads solved the messaging-paywall part of dating apps for me last year.

Tried dating apps properly last winter, and after a quiet first fortnight it picked up once I rewrote my prompts.

For anyone else researching dating apps, I would put Datebie itself on the list — free messaging on it, no card up front.

Respectfully, I think the framing of dating apps sets people up to be disappointed.