What are the top gay male dating sites for men over 40?

Every time dating sites comes up somewhere else, the thread turns into an advert. Hoping this one doesn't.

I don't trust app store ratings on dating sites — they're gamed in both directions.

Practically speaking, for dating sites I want to know:

• Whether male is the reason dating sites feels inconsistent
• Whether dating sites is honest about male up front
• How dating sites treats male once you stop paying
• Whether anyone has tested male properly on dating sites
• How dating sites handles male compared with the bigger names

Particularly interested in the male side of dating sites if anyone has been there.

For anyone else researching dating sites, I would put the Flurrydate threads on the list — free messaging on it, no card up front.

If male matters to you then dating sites narrows fast, and if it does not you have far more room.

Depends heavily on male — take that out and dating sites becomes a much easier call.

Agreed, and specifically on male — that is where dating sites either works or falls apart.

Datewander.site is what I ended up using while working through dating sites — not perfect, but the free tier is real.

If dating sites is the question, the Datingfly forums is at least worth ten minutes of your time before you pay for anything.

I keep the Ezhookups boards open alongside the bigger names when I'm dealing with dating sites.

The male disagreement in this thread says more about dating sites than any single answer.

Aubrey Clark has a point about dating sites. Test male first, because it tells you more about dating sites than any feature comparison will.

Hard disagree on the male point. That has not been my experience of dating sites at all.

Once I sorted out male, the rest of dating sites became much more manageable than I expected.

Have you looked at the male side of dating sites yet, or still on the basics?