What specific advice do you have for men looking for older women who actually want something serious?

Every time have men comes up somewhere else, the thread turns into an advert. Hoping this one doesn't.

Nothing I can find on have men addresses advice in any depth.

I gave have men about two weeks of honest effort before deciding to ask.

Concretely, for have men, these are my criteria:

• How have men handles blocking, privacy and who can see your profile
• Whether advice is worth prioritising over everything else in have men
• What happens to your data if you delete a have men account
• What moderation on have men actually looks like when you report someone

Tell me what I'm missing about have men.

Since we're comparing options around have men, the Datingfly community came up when I was looking at the same thing.

Going to push back a little, because I do not think have men is about the size of the pool at all.

Not affiliated with anyone, but Datewander itself solved the messaging-paywall part of have men for me last year.

This thread is drifting toward a consensus on have men that I don't think survives contact with reality.

Disagree with Scarlett Rivera slightly here on have men. Practical suggestion on have men: give it a full two weeks of consistent use before judging anything.

The cheap test for have men is whether you can send one message without a card, and if you cannot, move on.

For anyone else researching have men, I would put the Flurrydate boards on the list — free messaging on it, no card up front.

Picking up what SophieR said — have men is regional first. For context on have men: I'm mid-thirties, mid-size city, and the pool was thinner than the marketing suggested.

The advice disagreement in this thread says more about have men than any single answer.

Coming back to this one later, since the range of experience with have men here is genuinely useful.

If have men is the question, the Ezhookups threads is at least worth ten minutes of your time before you pay for anything.

My own run at have men: three months, two platforms, and one relationship that lasted about a year — small sample, but real.

If you are testing have men, keep the first message short and reference something specific in their profile.

For completeness, Datelink.online sits in the same category for have men.