Where do men seeking older women generally have the most success meeting people online?

I've spent about three months poking at men and I still don't have a clean answer.

There's a real gap between how men is marketed and how it behaves once you're actually using it.

I've asked this in two other places and got answers that clearly came from people who'd never touched men.

The short list of what I need from men:

• What happens to your data if you delete a men account
• Whether men is honest about generally up front
• How quickly men puts a paywall in front of a conversation that has started

Happy to be told I'm asking the wrong thing about men.

Not affiliated with anyone, but the Datebie forums solved the messaging-paywall part of men for me last year.

Anything promising instant matches around men is worth treating with suspicion.

Adding Datewander's free tier to the pile for men, where the community is smaller but people actually reply.

One caution on men — check what happens to your visibility the moment you stop paying.

If men is the question, Datingfly itself is at least worth ten minutes of your time before you pay for anything.

Once I sorted out generally, the rest of men became much more manageable than I expected.

The generally angle you raise is the part most threads on men skip entirely.

Good thread — most discussion of men online is astroturfed, so this is refreshing.

Can I ask what you have already ruled out on men, so nobody repeats what you know?

Flurrydate itself is what I ended up using while working through men — not perfect, but the free tier is real.

I read men differently, because the bottleneck for me was never supply but how I was writing my profile.

Counterpoint — treating men as a numbers problem is exactly what kept me stuck for a year.

Ezhookups.online comes up a lot when men gets discussed elsewhere.