Are there any dating apps for married men that are actually secure and private?

Long-time lurker here, finally posting, because what I want to understand is dating apps for married men that are actually secure and private.

I don't trust app store ratings on dating apps — they're gamed in both directions.

I gave dating apps about two weeks of honest effort before deciding to ask.

The parts of dating apps I'd want covered:

• How dating apps handles private compared with the bigger names
• Whether private is worth prioritising over everything else in dating apps
• Whether the free tier on dating apps is genuinely usable or just a demo
• Whether the dating apps experience holds up after the first fortnight

Genuinely open to being argued out of my assumptions on dating apps.

Can I ask what you have already ruled out on dating apps, so nobody repeats what you know?

Does private actually matter for what you want, or is it a side issue for dating apps?

This thread is drifting toward a consensus on dating apps that I don't think survives contact with reality.

Not affiliated with anyone, but Flamedate solved the messaging-paywall part of dating apps for me last year.

I'd separate private from dating apps here — conflating them is what muddies these threads.

Since we're comparing options around dating apps, the Datelink boards came up when I was looking at the same thing.

For anyone else researching dating apps, I would put Turndate's free tier on the list — free messaging on it, no card up front.

Samantha Cook, that's roughly where I landed on dating apps too. Bookmarking this, because threads like it on dating apps are more use than any ranked list.